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Should I file for a legal separation rather than divorce?

| 03/08/2016

When contemplating a divorce, many people wish to know whether it is better to file for a legal separation or for a dissolution of marriage.  Of course, only you can decide which course to plot that leads you in a better direction for your life.  There are several advantages and disadvantages to each type of initial filing, so its best to gather information to help you decide which will better suit your needs....

How much will I receive in child support?

| 06/30/2016

When the Court determines child support, they utilize the computer program Dissomaster or ExSpouse, generally in California.  There are various systems available online which can assist you in calculating what your child support will be, but you won't really know for sure what the sum will be, because the Judge has discretion on certain factors.  As a general rule, however, there are very few factors which will cause your support to go up and down.  They are:  You and your ex's wages (wages are entered as monthly gross or pre-tax or pre-deduction wages); the timeshare each party has with the child(ren); who claims the child(ren) as deductions for tax purposes; deductible mortgage interest; union dues; health insurance payments; mandatory retirement payments; and new spouse income.  The court may also grant a hardship deduction to a party for any other children which are supported and who are not from the relationship at issue....

Going through a divorce while protecting your children, assets and sanity.

| 03/09/2016

Deciding to get a divorce will most likely be one of the toughest decisions of your life.  When there are children involved, the decision becomes even harder, as more lives will be affected by your choices.  By the time you are searching for a lawyer, you've usually tried everything to save your marriage... but nothing has worked.  Finally, you've decided that it's causing the family more damage than good to stay in the marriage and it's time to separate and try living apart. ...

Dangers of Remaining Under One Roof While Divorcing

| 06/30/2016

Many couples opt to remain under the same roof while going through the divorce process.  There are several pressing reasons to do so.  In today's economy, it is often a financial decision that causes one parent to move into an extra bedroom, or a guest house on the property, rather than incurring the high cost of a new residence.  Another very legitimate reason, is that the divorcing parents feel that having Mom or Dad still under one roof will limit the impact the divorce will have on the kids and that by having some transitional period, the children will adjust better to the parent's separation.  The reasons outlined above make perfect sense to the family, but have stirred up many issues in family law cases, especially as it relates to how the court will determine the parties' actual Date of Separation, which determination can have giant effects on the parties' division of marital property and support issues....

Can Divorce lead to Healing? - A Spiritual Perspective

| 07/25/2016

I'm a spiritual person and people often wonder how I can possibly do the job that I do.  I have to tell you.  I love my job.  I love helping people.  I love helping people out of their suffering.  So its a perfect match.  I don't counsel my clients to get divorced, in fact, I often try to talk them out of it.  Over the years, I've come to realize that by the time their sitting in my office, their mind is pretty much made up.  Now my job is often "Damage control."  I am very passionate about what I do and I believe that life is a journey and that divorce and family law issues are part of the journey for many, many people - half of our population, in fact.  I heard a court-appointed therapist (the top in her field) testify, "In family law, the destination is HEALING."  I believe that this is true.  The way can be treacherous, full of pitfalls on all sides.  But with a good guide that has taken many down that path, so much suffering can be avoided, and the healing can begin....